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Aug 302014

Remember that book from years back, “Do What You Love and the Money Will Follow.”

I devoured that book and wholeheartedly believed the Gospel it, and so many other books like it, were preaching.

And if that concept works for you then great! Go for it 🙂

But it didn’t work for me. First because I couldn’t figure out anything I loved enough to want to do it all the time, second because what I love has changed over the years and if I was still doing what I loved as a 20 year old I’d be miserable today and third because as nice as the concept seems, there are simply a lot of things I love that don’t and never will make money, nor would I want them to.

I love sitting on the porch in the morning and there are days I’d do it all day if I could. In fact I used to joke that the house could burn down and I’d be happy as long as the porch remained for me to sit on.

I love the simple, everyday tasks involved in taking care of my family, from cooking to washing dishes to folding laundry and lots of other mundane stuff. I love it because it’s for people I love but if I tried to do it as a career I’d hate it.

I love taking long drives on unknown roads, without time constraints or an agenda.

I love playing computer games. I also love turning them off when I feel like doing something else.

I love meditating, daydreaming, and zoning out from the physical world to visit my rich, inner world.

And on and on….

None of these things make money for me and I wouldn’t love any of them if they became a “job.” Yet they’re an important part of my life and I wouldn’t want to give them up or shove them aside in pursuit of wealth.

So if what you love doesn’t pay the bills, what, what CAN you do that’s enjoyable enough to keep doing, engaging enough to not kill you from boredom or drudgery, and lucrative enough to make the financial rewards worth doing it on the days you don’t really want to?

The key is figuring out how to do work you like “well enough” in a way that pays “good enough” and – this is the important part – integrating it in your life in a way that you have the time and flexibility to do the things you really love. And in keeping with flexibility, another key is understanding that what you love will change over time and so you have to remain open to new ideas and desires and brave enough change what you’re doing and how you’re doing it when it’s no longer working for your spirit.

Figure that out and you’re well on the way to living a life you truly love!

 Posted by at 9:56 pm
Aug 272014

Psychic, sensual, passionate, emotionally mature, a wonderful and intense lover…. what an amazing guy!

I see the King of Cups as the lover of the Tarot deck. He is full of passion and radiates sex appeal, sometimes to the point of being irresistible. He is also emotionally mature and knows who he is and what he wants from life… and from you. He’s in touch with the core of who he is, is fully present, can be vulnerable and truly open, knows how to express himself, and has the ability to fulfill your every desire on very deep levels. This is a man who is ready to love as a man, not as a boy child who’s all about the superficial. He’s also strong and wise and will go out of his way to take care of those he loves. You can count on him when you need love and support and he will be there for the long haul.

As you study the card you’ll see that he is gazing directly into your eyes and his arms are open, indicating that he’s naked and available to you on all levels. He holds a coup which is full of hot, steamy love and emotional fulfillment. He often olds a staff or scepter too indicating emotional stability and support. So we have all the passion of a great lover without the drama of a loose cannon. Pretty good combination!

In a business situation this card indicates leadership with compassion and understanding, a boss who cares about his employees and treats them as family. He is kind and caring, and also has a really appealing vibe that makes people want to work with him. Because of his strong sexual energy, people may sometimes mistake his friendly and open nature for something romantic. He’s aware of this and gently makes sure people understand the nature of their relationship, although he is also the kind to mix business and personal relationships with no problem.

If reversed we see a man who’s looking sideways, not quite ready to share or expose himself emotionally. It may indicate someone who is physically an adult but is emotionally immature and unable to commit or open himself to relationships. It can also indicate someone who has been hurt very deeply and now avoids getting too close to people, holding his emotions at arm’s length so he doesn’t get hurt again.

 Posted by at 9:33 pm
Aug 232014

A lot of people tell me stories about their children (or other children they know) who are displaying psychic abilities, and they aren’t sure how to deal with them.  In fact they’re sometimes a bit scared and worried about what people might think if word got out that little Johnny “knows things” or can see and talk to his dead Grandmother.

So let’s talk about it a bit….

First of all, it is our natural state to be psychic.  All of us are born with a strong connection to the non-physical world (after all that’s where we just came from) and we retain that ability for the first few years of life here on earth.  For most of us, as we become more rooted in the physical world we begin to identify with this as our reality, and our memories and abilities fade for a time.

So the first thing to be aware of, is that children are highly psychic because they’re still connected to the non-physical.  Then as they grow this world becomes more interesting and their clear connection fades naturally.

Second, children will actively suppress their abilities if they get feedback that they’re not ok.  These messages often come from adults who are frightened or freaked out by their children’s abilities or who, because of their own rigid belief systems, can’t accept what’s going on.  Conversely, some adults get super excited and go overboard showing off their children’s abilities, making them feel like some kind of freak show.  Either way the effect on the child is that they feel like something is wrong with them, and this can wreak havoc in all areas of their life for a very long time.

As an adult your reaction and response is super important and can make a huge difference in the healthy development of your children, psychic and otherwise.  Here are some tips on how to affirm and encourage psychic abilities in your kids:

  • Act like it’s normal.  It IS normal but many adults make it a big deal when a child displays psychic tendencies.  While it seems like you’re encouraging them by going “Wow!” what you may be doing is sending a message that they’re somehow special or different.  Kids don’t like to be all that special or different… they want to fit into the world around them.  So instead of making a huge deal of it, act like it’s a perfectly normal part of life.
  • Take them seriously.  When kids say they’re seeing or hearing something then they probably are.  Instead of dismissing their stories as nonsense, treat their non-physical friends as if they are physical ones.  You can explain that they’re non-physical and so only they can see them, but don’t discount their existence.
  • Engage them in conversation.  When Johnny talks about seeing a non-physical entity ask him about it.  What does it look like?  What are you two talking about?  What do you like to do together?  Ask questions as if you’re talking about a human friend and encourage responses.  If your child says the entity is telling them to do things you don’t approve of then instead of getting angry explain that this behavior is not ok and that you have certain rules you expect everyone in your house to follow, including non-physical entities.  It’s also fine to explain in an age-appropriate manner that not every entity is friendly and that some are even bullies (just like other children can be).
  • Give them tools to deal with scary or negative experiences.  Like I just said, not every entity is friendly.  Just like you’d teach a child how to deal with a bully at school, you need to teach them how to deal with unfriendly entities and spirits.  For most kids a firm “stop it!” is enough to keep things in line.  Some children respond better to simple rituals (make one up just for them) and some need the help of guardian angels and friendly entities to help keep them safe from the scary ones.
  • Don’t let them pull one over on you.  Kids are clever and will lie to keep themselves out of trouble.  Just like children will blame their siblings for something they did, sometimes they’ll also blame non-physical entities to save their own butts.  You need to pay attention and be discerning so that you know when they’re telling the truth and when they’re trying to pull a fast one.
  • Help them deal with negative feedback from humans.  An important lesson that kids need to learn is that not everyone is loving, kind and supportive.  Therefore, even though you’re totally cool with their abilities, they need to understand that not everyone shares your enthusiasm.  Now I wouldn’t bring this up before the fact, as there’s no sense in having them worry about something that hasn’t even happened.  But if they do experience negativity from someone, it’s important to explain that different people have different beliefs and that they’re perfectly ok and normal despite what so and so says.  It’s also important to talk to them about how to deal with this type of criticism if it happens again.
  • Encourage their abilities in every day life.  If you have a child that’s good at finding lost things then encourage that ability by asking them every time something gets lost.  If they see dead people then ask them to “tell grandma this” or “ask grandma about that.”  Give them opportunities to integrate their abilities in every day life so that they stay strong and sharp.
  • Encourage them to learn more about it.  But only if they’re interested.  Nothing kills the desire to learn faster than shoving something down someone’s throat.  So if your child shows interest in occult or metaphysical studies then by all means encourage it.  But don’t insist they read cards, play with pendulums or study certain books or belief systems if they clearly have no interest in the subject.
  • Know that they may fade.  As children reach school age their psychic abilities often start to fade naturally.  It’s not that they’re losing them but just that they’re taking a back seat to the physical world.  Remember that one of the jobs of a child is to learn how to function independently in the physical world so they can become a well adjusted, independent adult.  So if your child’s abilities seem to fade, just take it in stride.  If they ask then explain that they’re focusing more on school and other activities but that their abilities aren’t gone, they’re just taking a rest.  Also explain that they’ll come back on their own soon enough and not to worry about it.

Ok that’s it for now.  If you need more help with understanding and raising your psychic children then give me a holler.  We can schedule a session specific to that and develop a plan just for you and your family.

 Posted by at 3:37 pm
Aug 222014

Psychic attack or love?There are times when you think you’re being psychically attacked but you’re not.

There are times that what you perceive as psychic attack is really an attempt to send love and positive vibes your way, but since you’re coming from a very different space it feels like an attack to you.

There are also times when just being in someone’s presence makes you feel drained and even sick. This could be psychic attack, but sometimes it really is just two vibrations that are out of sync so they interfere with each other’s harmony.

My point is that you can experience what feels like psychic attack when really it’s just energetic differences. There’s no right or wrong vibe to have here… just different and if you’re in a situation where the vibe is very different than what you’re comfortable with it can feel very negative to you, even if it isn’t.

Let me tell you a story to illustrate:

Years ago I was at a national convention for a company I worked at and had the opportunity to hear Zig Ziglar speak. It was in a huge arena, with maybe 5,000 people there and I’m not a crowd person. The energy was really high and everyone seemed really excited.

Except for me.  I was having a panic attack.

I felt cold and clammy, couldn’t breathe, and thought i was going to pass out right there. A couple people with me even asked if I was feeling ok because I looked positively ashen. I lied and said I was fine, and closed my eyes to try and shut out what I perceived to be very negative energy bombarding me from all angles. Just when I thought I couldn’t take anymore and would have to leave, a small thought formed in the back of my mind:

What if all these people were sending love and I just couldn’t feel it?

I sat with this for a minute, then closed my eyes, started breathing slowly and purposely, and mentally started repeating that everyone in the room loved me and was happy I was there and that the vibes I was feeling were ethereal hugs and well wishes.

Nothing shifted at first but I kept at it and after about 10 minutes I realized that I was no longer cold and clammy but instead felt relaxed and warm. The atmosphere felt different and I opened my eyes to find a very different scene. Physically nothing had changed…. there were still tons of people in the arena and Zig Ziglar was still on stage talking. The difference was that I now felt part of the group. I was in sync with the vibe of the place and instead of feeling like I was being oppressed and attacked, I felt welcomed and loved.

So you see… it really is a matter of perception and synchronicity much of the time.

The next time you feel attacked, try mentally morphing that incoming vibe into love, acceptance, appreciation, and every warm, fuzzy feeling you can muster up. If that changes your mood then you’ll know that you weren’t really being attacked, but just out of sync with the person or people sending the vibes.

If nothing changes or you feel worse then it may indeed be a psychic attack, and it’s time to take steps to protect yourself (more on this later).


 Posted by at 5:18 pm
Aug 152014

Psychic Maria defines Psychic Attack

If you do a Google search you’ll find that there are many different definitions of psychic attack, most of them centering around someone sending negative energy with the intent to harm you.

While this is certainly true, it’s not complete. In my experience, people can psychically attack you with the intent to do harm or good, and they can do it even if they’re not aware what they’re up to. So let’s define psychic attack:

Psychic attack occurs when someone either consciously or unconsciously uses their thoughts, emotions and vibration to influence, control or manipulate you.

From the point of view of the attacker, this can be done with the best of intentions. For example, if your parents don’t like your choice of partner they may send psychic vibes out to try and break up the relationship. This energy can be very negative and is palpable when you’re in each other’s presence. From their point of view however, they love you and want what’s best for you (well…. what they “think” of what’s best for you) so they think they’re being loving and helpful. From your point of view however, it’s very negative and can seriously mess with your life!

Of course people can also psychically attack with the intent to harm.  For instance in a relationship your partner may psychically try to manipulate you to act or think a certain way.  This may be a deliberately abusive attempt to manipulate or control you, or it could be an unconscious attempt stemming from your partner’s fears and insecurities.  Another example, is when someone dislikes you for some reason and mentally intends to do you harm.  A competitor trying to put you out of business, neighbor sending you bad vibes because they don’t like your lifestyle, or angry ex trying to mess with your current relationships are all examples of this.

The bottom line is that when someone tries to influence you through their thoughts and energy field, no matter what the intentions, they’re psychically attacking you.

 Posted by at 4:05 pm
Aug 082014

So I’ve been procrastinating for 2 weeks on writing this post on procrastination 🙂

Aren’t we all good at doing this? In fact we can be so good at putting things off that sometimes we do it for years. And we’re also really good at beating ourselves up for putting things off, as if that will motivate us to get things done faster. Not!

So why do we do it? And what can we do to not do it? Or should we even not do it? Hmmm…..

Over the years I’ve concluded there are two main reason people procrastinate:

  1. They don’t want to do whatever it is they’re not doing.
  2. Their subconscious and the Universe are lining things up and the “not doing” is actually part of a greater plan.

Let’s look at them one by one.

I don’t want to do this!

It’s pretty obvious that we put off things we don’t want to do. Sometimes we even do this at the expense of being able to enjoy things we do want to do. Think about kids who aren’t allowed to go out and play until their room is clean. A mere 20 minutes of what they describe as “torture” will get them out the door for hours of fun and play with their friends. But they’ll groan and complain for hours, not getting that task done and acting like their entire life is ruined because of it. Then predictably, there’s no time left in the day to go play, which reinforces how absolutely torturous room cleaning really is!

As students we play a different version of this game, putting off studying or completing school assignments at the last possible moment. Of course we have every intention of getting them done early or pacing the studying but because we really don’t want to do it we put it off. Sometimes we do this to the detriment of other things we’d rather be doing, so there’s the added anger about not being able to do what we want. The difference between this and the child not cleaning his or her room is that this time it’s self imposed. So instead of being mad at a parent, we’re mad at ourselves. This chips away at self-esteem and causes a lot of frustration and anger.

As adults the theme continues, putting off work obligations until the last minute, missing deadlines, and so on. Then because we goofed off or didn’t prioritize, we have to work late to get things done, sometimes missing things we want to do. This puts a strain on our relationships too, as we miss family events for catch up work. Before we know it our kids are grown and we realize we’ve missed many precious moments – all because of procrastination.

It also puts a strain on our finances, as putting off taking care of small things can lead to huge expense and frustration. Just had a client recently who ignored a “slightly leaky dishwasher” which then turned into having to not only fix that but replace the entire kitchen floor too. This leads to not having the money to do things we enjoy, which makes us mad at ourselves for not being on top of things. It also leaves us full of regret as we age, when we thing of all the things we wanted to do but didn’t because we didn’t have the money.

So the moral of this story is: When not wanting to do something becomes a habit of procrastination, you mess up your life.

You miss out on a lot you’d rather be doing and you also cause yourself stress and frustration, as well as loss of self-esteem as you beat yourself up for not getting things done.

And once it becomes a habit, procrastination becomes ingrained and gets harder and harder to kick. In other words – we become pros in procrastinating getting rid of procrastination and find ourselves caught in an endless loop.

Now let’s move on to the second reason for procrastinating.

 The Universe is telling me not to do it just yet.

This isn’t as obvious as the other reason but very important. Sometimes we’re not really procrastinating, but being guided to not do something because the Universe is lining things up for something better.

I’ve experienced this many times as something I was procrastinating on resolved itself, often in a better way than I could have done it myself. I’ve had people pick up and complete projects I was putting off, and in the process discovered hidden talents I didn’t know they possessed. I’ve put off small repairs to discover later I would have had to undo all my work anyway because a bigger repair was on the horizon. An example of this was when I put off replacing the roof. It needed to be done but it wasn’t critical yet (I didn’t have buckets catching water all over the house) and I kept putting it off. Turned out well though because a tornado came through and knocked half the roof off. So yeah, the Universe knew this was coming and kept nudging me to put it off a little longer. And bonus, insurance covered the cost so it saved me a lot of money too.

So you see… sometimes procrastination is a gentle nudge from the Universe to hold off a while because things are coming together behind the scenes and it’s not quite time for you to take action.



How to deal with procrastination.

So ok, now that we’ve covered the two major reasons we procrastinate, what can we do about it?

What I do is always assume I’m procrastinating for a reason. Meaning the Universe is holding me back and it will all make sense soon. By taking this approach I don’t beat myself up about it because I know it’s part of a larger plan. It also enables me to take a proactive approach to moving things forward.

So first, when I notice I’m procrastinating, I stop and have a little conversation with the Universe. I say “Universe, I know this needs to get done and I’m quite blatantly putting it off. If this is something I need to take care of then I need the inspiration and drive to get it done. If this is something someone else needs to take care of then I need to know who so I can get it delegated. And If this is part of a larger plan then let me know and I’m happy to roll with it and put it in your hands.”

Then I do this, which makes all the difference in the world:

I assign the task to the Universe. I say quite simply and firmly “This needs to get done so handle it.” I don’t care if I end up doing it in the end or if someone else does. The important thing is I put the responsibility squarely on the Universe.

Then I wait a minute, and if no inspiration is forthcoming, I purposely back-burner the thing I’m putting off for a short period of time. By “short” I mean 30-60 minutes at most. I give myself another assignment, set a timer and go. Then when the time’s up I revisit the thing I’m avoiding and ask again if I’m ready to make progress on it. I remind the Universe that it needs to take care of it, and again if nothing is forthcoming I set myself to another task for another period of time. I usually keep to the 30-60 minute schedule, though If I’m guided I’ll wait a few hours or even a couple days before bringing it up again.

However long the time period between asking again, I keep doing it until the thing either gets done or doesn’t need to get done anymore. For example, I’ve put off creating reports for work and not gotten any inspiration for days, to find out in the end the report isn’t needed anymore or the parameters have changed so much I’d have to redo it all anyway. See?

Now an important point is to not spend time trying to talk yourself into getting started, beat yourself up, or try to force action. Keep insisting the Universe has it covered and go about your day, revisiting the thing from time to time but not stressing about it. If there’s a deadline you can remind the Universe of that but really… don’t stress.

What will happen is that you’ll be more productive and get a lot of other things done on your list (those little procrastinations). That’s because you are purposely NOT doing the main thing, but assigning yourself something in its place.

You’ll also find you spend a lot less time on things that are what I call “time suckers.” You know… mindlessly surfing the internet, zoning in front of the TV, chit chatting with co workers and the like. Not that you can’t do these things. You can. But make them an “assignment” rather than simply falling into them, got it?

Ok I’m done writing this post and it’s time to get back to one of the things on my procrastination list. Checking in now….

 Posted by at 6:06 pm