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Dec 292014


In Tarot, as in life, queens represent divine feminine energy. A queen is a ruler of her Queendom and as such she is at the top of her world. Being a queen also implies subjects and domains, which means responsibility and leadership.

When I look at the queen of wands I see a mother, nurturer, business woman and friend. I see someone who is calm and organized and leads with gentleness and compassion. As a mother this queen is very cool, her house is lots of fun to be at, and she raises her children to be independent and well adjusted adults. As a business woman she is organized and fair, and a delight to work for. There’s no drama with this queen, but she does expect you to live up to her expectations. If you don’t she can seem harsh and unforgiving, but it’s for the good of the business and all the people who work in it. As a lover she’s practical so on the surface she may not seem romantic, but underneath she is. She’s a capable woman in her own right so she brings equality to the partnership, she needs and expects a strong partner to be her equal, and she knows what she wants and how to get it in the bedroom as well as the boardroom.

She’s also very loyal, but if you betray her then you’ll pay dearly because she expects loyalty in return. She takes relationships seriously and is a good life partner, but not wild and full of drama. So if you want a party animal she’s not for you, but if you want a strong, loving, nurturing, lasting relationship then she’s your gal.

Reversed this queen can turn conniving and manipulative, which pushes people away. She can go off the deep end, acting like a crazy bitch and making your life hell on earth. She can also be controlling, but it generally blows up in her face.

 Posted by at 12:00 pm
Dec 132014

I ran across this Michelangelo quote: The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.



What do you think about it?  At first glance I thought it was pretty cool but then I had second thoughts.

People are always telling us to aim high, reach for the stars and dream bigger.  That’s all well and good but sometimes setting our sights too high can actually keep us from reaching our goals.

Think about it.  If you tell someone who can’t walk to set a goal of running a marathon how do you think that will make them feel?  For a select few holding that vision will get them up out of that wheelchair, but for most the idea seems so far fetched they’ll probably just laugh at you.  Or worse, get depressed because they see absolutely no way to make that happen.  On the other hand, setting a goal of standing might be achievable.  From standing they might take a few steps, then more until one day they’ve walked clear across the room.  From there they might step onto the porch, walk down the driveway, then the street, then around the block.  And maybe someday the idea of a marathon will seem not only doable but exciting!

If I could talk to Michelangelo I think I’d tell him that to me the greater danger is to let your first goal be your only goal, and forget that it’s simply one step toward better and better things.

What do you think?

 Posted by at 9:16 am
Dec 112014

Ahhh the reality vs. illusion debate.  Recently I found myself in a discussion about weather life is real or an illusion. The argument was that it’s all just illusion anyway so why worry about any of it? Better to live life in the present, stay in the flow and simply allow. Yeah, that’s the ticket to living a happy, abundant, fulfilled life. Right?


Yes, on some higher plane it may be an illusion but so what? We’re on THIS plane, experiencing this life and to sit there and tell someone who is having a really hard time of it to just “relax and allow” is not only uncaring and irresponsible but doesn’t do a damn thing to improve their experience in the here and now.

What people need is something real, something practical that has a concrete, positive impact on what they’re dealing with today. Not tomorrow, next week, or eventually. But right now, when they’re in the thick of things and nothing is working, the Universe isn’t delivering and life just plain sucks.

And that, in truth, is the life a lot of people face every single day.

They need to feel heard, understood and cared for as they live (and sometimes suffer) the things in their own lives. Yes, eventually we get to “relax and allow” but everyone needs to go there at their own pace and in a way that makes sense to them.

See here’s the thing. Most of us are out of the flow in many areas of our lives. Not only that but we have no idea how to get in the flow, what the flow even looks like or what direction it is even in. And often, because it is so far out of our experience and ability to perceive it, it appears as a terrifying, raging river instead of a soothing, gentle stream. It literally feels like jumping to our death and I can’t think of many people who want to do that.

On the other hand, everyone has areas of their life that they already see the illusion and they are able to relax and allow, and these areas of life are working for them. As a coach, part of the job is to gently guide them to recognize these areas and help them apply it to the parts of their lives that aren’t working this way.

Now I’m not going to lie or try to fluff it up here.

This can be very hard work! The forces keeping us out of the flow are powerful and almost entirely subconscious and there are many layers to get through in order to break free of the things that are making us miserable. Illusion or not the consequences in our everyday lives are very real and can be extremely painful and it takes courage, work, persistence and usually time to get through them. There are breakthroughs and those are amazing as large chunks of the illusion fall away, but often it feels like a never ending journey into frustration and despair.

You CAN do it though and bit by bit you can mold your life into that fantasy you’ve been dreaming about.  In other words… you can turn the illusion into your reality 🙂

There are many great resources to help you, and of course I’m here too if you need me.  It’s a personal and very intimate journey so don’t get discouraged if it takes a while to find your unique path.  Keep at it, celebrate your victories no matter how small) and you’ll get there.  I know you can do it!

 Posted by at 11:23 am
Nov 182014

Glossary-MediumA Medium is someone who can communicate with people who are not on the physical plane.  To quote The Sixth Sense, they “talk to dead people.”

People seek the services of a medium to contact loved ones who have passed on, and can receive messages of love and support, answers to questions and other information.  This can be very comforting and extremely helpful in dealing with grief.

Here are some things to remember when seeking the services of a medium:

  • Mediums communicate in different ways.  Many receive internal messages and sensations which they pass along to you.  Some go into a trance, allowing the departed to speak through them.  Some may also communicate through automatic writing, flame readings, drawing and art, physical mediumship and seances  though these things aren’t as common.  When I do mediumship work it is usually through a meditative trance, in which messages come through and I relay them to the client verbally.
  • Some messages are very direct and others are symbolic.  There are times names, dates and specific information comes through loud and clear.  Often however the messages are more symbolic and subtle and require interpretation.  This is because communication happens differently on the other side, and the longer someone is over there the harder it can be to communicate clearly to the earth plane.
  • There is no guarantee a specific person will be reached.  You can go in asking to talk to Uncle Jim but he may be busy or simply not want to communicate at the moment.  Others who have messages for you may communicate instead, and in rare cases no one may communicate.  It’s important in a mediumship reading to keep an open mind and be willing to receive messages no matter who they come from.
  • Often people cannot communicate right after they’ve passed on.  There is a period of time right after someone passes that they are adjusting to life on the other side and to communicate to us here on earth is confusing and more than they can handle at the moment.  In these cases someone else often comes through to let you know that they can’t communicate yet, but to try later.
  • There are all different personality types and moods on the other side.  Not everyone is all love and light and not everyone is happy.  If someone was a crank on earth they may very well be a crank over there too.
  • The other side isn’t a static place where everlasting bliss is the order of the day.  There’s a lot going on there and sometimes people are busy, so don’t be surprised if they don’t have a lot of time to chat.  Usually they’re very accommodating and offer reassurance and communication, but they can be impatient and want to get back to their work.
 Posted by at 5:13 pm
Nov 072014

Today, for a moment, I succumbed to the lie of “supermodel beauty.”  I was flipping through a holiday magazine and all the women were so pretty and the outfits they wore were so flattering on them.

For a moment – just a brief moment – I fell into the “I’ll never look that good” blues.

Yes, I know those models are less than half my age, have probably never had children, spend their days eating nothing but celery, take all sorts of supplements and pills I’ve never heard of and are air brushed to the point that I probably wouldn’t recognize them if I saw them on the street.

Yes I know it’s all glitter, make-up, and photoshop.

But for that brief moment it didn’t matter.  For that brief moment I forgot what an amazing and beautiful woman I am and compared myself to a fake, and impossible picture.

Why do we as women do this?  Even the most secure and fulfilled of us have those moments, no matter how brief where we feel not good enough.  Not pretty enough or thin or fit or smart or successful or whatever.

We are awesome!  We rock this world!

Yet the false perfection of the media still casts doubt in our minds, just a little.

So after shredding the magazine (yes, I had a glint in my eye as I did it), I looked in the mirror, smiled and said to myself “you ain’t got nothing on me Barbie!”

Oh yeah…. I can take on the world again!

You with me?

 Posted by at 3:03 pm
Nov 042014

We are all works in progress. We are always evolving, never finished, and constantly changing.

So the next time you think

When I lose XX pounds…

When I retire….

When I save $$$ money…

When the kids are grown…

When I’m out of school…

When I get a new job…

When I get that facelift…

When I get married…

When I get divorced…

When my parents are gone (sad but I know many caretakers who feel this way because of the incredible burden of caring for aging parents)…

When I get a new house, or car, or computer, or whatever…

When I find the man/woman of my dreams…

Remember that these accomplishments, no matter how huge, are still just a single moment in the eternity of YOUR LIFE!

Because after the weight loss or kids growing up or new house or car, or that someone coming into or leaving your life…. After all that there will be another “When I…..” lurking around the corner.

So stop saying when! Know that you’ll never get it done and just start doing it today, right now, exactly as you are.

Do it at this weight, this address, with kids in tow, in this job, in this city, with this relationship. Or all by yourself.

Stop saying “when I” and start talking in present and even past tense.

Today I….. Yesterday I. Last week/month/year I….

And soon you’ll find you have so many amazing experiences and happy memories that you won’t even remember then “when I” that used to make you put things off.

Try it 🙂

 Posted by at 6:50 pm
Oct 302014


The traditional definition of this card is about hard work, struggle and responsibility. It also suggests feeling restricted or over burdened with your responsibilities and duties.

But that’s not what I get when I read this card. Maybe it’s the deck I use or my own intuition (remember to always go with your intuition for card meanings) but to me it means building, organizing and executing plans.

My first impression when looking at this card is of weaving together or building. The man’s back is to us because he’s concentrating on his work and he’s carefully inserting his wand into a structure that he’s built. He feels strong and self assured, and the purplish blocks in the background are organized and structured to form a solid, spiritual foundation and backdrop, strengthening his chances for success.

I hear words like “executing your plan,” and “walking your talk,” when I meditate on this card. It signifies that the time for planning is over and now you’re on to practical, real-world execution. You’ve made the plans, considered the options, agonized over the details and finally completed the blueprint. Now it’s time to get your hands dirty, and build the dang house, brick by brick.

In work the meaning is obvious as it’s time to get those projects done. In relationships it’s a message to do your part to build a life together based on the solid foundation you’ve already created and fostered. In the journey of self it’s time to stop reflecting and put your self-awareness and talents to work in the 3-D world.

This card is very orderly and methodical, and there’s a slowness to it, as you are carefully putting the pieces together instead of powering through quickly. The planning, measuring and cutting are complete and precise, and you’re deliberately placing the pieces together to complete the whole.   This is also work YOU do, vs having a team. You may have help but you’re at the helm, putting together what you’ve already created.

In card symbolism, wands are about work but there’s also an element of magic to them (waving the magic wand). This tells me that you’ll work hard but things will also seem to fall into place effortlessly. Of course it’s not effortless as you’ve been laying the groundwork for a while, but to the outside world it may seem like things magically get done. Numerologically, 10 symbolizes completeness, and bringing in the elements of the lesser digits to form a whole. It is made up of 1 and 0 which is a combination of leadership, singular focus and personal power along with the all encompassing and creative 0 which is nothing yet everything.


Here we see a lot of swirling chaos in the background, indicating that the plan is either faulty or hasn’t been made at all. The person is off balance and is haphazardly trying to build something with no solid structure. It’s easy to see that this won’t turn out well.

It could also mean structure being torn down and the chaos that’s surrounding it. This might mean the ending of a project, relationship, job, or business. The key is that instead of an orderly ending, there will be chaos, loose ends and a lot of dust and rubble in the process.

 Posted by at 3:24 pm
Oct 272014


The Soul (or Spirit) journey is our journey through life. Not just this human life but our very existence, which transcends space and time.

Sometimes we talk about our soul journey as if it’s separate from our physical life or as if it’s something “out there” and hard to understand or reach. We may try to gain insight to our soul journey through meditation, hypnosis, spiritual therapy or counseling, healing work, or ritual. We may also attend classes, read books, listen to music, or consult others to try and find our “purpose” which we think is the reason that we’re here right now and is part of our journey.

This is all well and good and it can help us on our spiritual path but it’s not going to uncover what our soul journey really is. That’s because there is no uncovering to be done. Our journey is simple. It’s to be. And become.

Our soul is the essence of who we are and its journey is what it does. It doesn’t really care or even know about right or wrong, good or bad, if we’re successful, how we look, where we live, what we do, who our friends are or anything else but existing, experiencing, expanding and growing. Over many lifetimes in many universe it takes form, as a neutron, grain of sand, cells in an organ of some unknown alien being, stars, planets, amoebas, plants, animals, humans, and all the life contained. It’s experience as you in this moment in time ads to its completeness and makes up part of the whole.


 Posted by at 2:57 pm
Oct 152014


The other day I was feeling quite unaccomplished, like my business wasn’t really going anywhere and my goals weren’t being met. I was kind of beating myself up for not being more focused, missing more than a few self-imposed deadlines, not always meeting my goals, and quite honestly… not caring too much about it.

This feeling lingered then last night I found myself idly looking through my documents when I came across an old to do list. It was from January 2013, when I was just considering how to develop an internet presence for my psychic reading business.

As I started reading through the list I realized that I’d accomplished every single thing on it, even things I’d forgotten about as my attention was drawn elsewhere.

If you’re familiar with my Law of Attraction and personal coaching then you may be thinking “of course you did,” but let me tell you as one who helps people accomplish goals every day… it’s a lot easier to fall of the wagon when it’s your own goals.

Anyway, reading this list helped me to remember everything I had accomplished, which was a lot, and I spent the next 20 minutes or so consciously appreciating how far I’ve come.

I left the exercise with a renewed sense of commitment and drive to continue building the business I love. Cool 🙂

So the next time you run across an old to-do list, take a moment to skim through it and congratulate yourself for everything you checked off. You deserve it!

 Posted by at 4:15 pm
Oct 092014

Sometimes something happens that really trips my emotions and I find myself completely overwhelmed and sometimes even crying nonstop (I’m not a crier so this is rare).

And sometimes, when I look at it objectively, I can’t figure out why that one thing or person got to me so much. Kind of like watching a sad part in a movie and bawling your eyes out yet at the same time knowing it’s just a movie and not real.

Has this ever happened to you? Do you know why?

For me (barring hormones because after all I am female), examination of the facts usually reveals some connection to my past. Something is happening or someone is acting in a way that triggers me, causing an overflow of emotions out of proportion to the current situation.

Yes, I realize this all sounds a bit clinical but I’m in a clinical mood today so bear with me….

“X” happens in the past and it devastates me at the time. It really shakes my confidence, causes trust issues, and major relationship trauma. Time goes on and I may think I’m over it, or may have even forgotten it. But one day something else happens, not nearly as big a deal as that first time but enough to trigger that feeling all over again. It can be as simple as someone saying a few innocent words, the smell or taste of a certain food, a piece of music, or a scene in a movie. Or it can be more complex like a job change, move, starting a new hobby or vacationing in a certain place. Maybe not even “the” place but some place with some similarity.

Whatever it is the emotion hits hard and I’m left crying my eyes out, an emotional wreck who is almost unable to function.   Sometimes in the middle I even find myself wondering why I’m reacting this way to such a small thing. I mean I cried over cheesecake once and really… that a major traumatic event?

I used to get lost in my funk and the emotions would run away with me. Nowadays not so much. I’m much better at realizing that my tears disproportionate to the size of that slice of cheesecake and being able to turn my attention to what’s behind it. Sometimes it becomes apparent right away. Sometimes it takes a while. But ultimately I come to a memory that’s at the root of my trouble, and I can see the connection between then and now.

Insight is very powerful and this is usually enough to dry my tears.

Life really is like onions huh? Layers and layers and layers. And like onions, those layers sure can make you cry sometimes. Ya know?

 Posted by at 4:41 pm